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Thoughts aren't real: Every moment of the day, we have random thoughts floating through our brains. Many of the thoughts are negative and limiting. You don't have to believe them. They aren't the truth or the whole truth. Thoughts can become our reality, but only if we let them.

Self-honesty is freedom: When you are in denial about something, you are blinding yourself to the truth. And even if the truth is temporarily painful, it will ultimately set you free. Be radically honest with yourself so you can live authentically.

Debt isn't worth it Nothing is more draining and humiliating than being in debt. Spend below your means. Save money. Live free.

Heal your wounds: Don't allow pain from your past (or present) to linger and cause you suffering. Don't stuff it down or pretend it doesn't matter when it does. Seek support from a professional trained to help you heal and renew your emotional health.

Kindness matters Small expressions of kindness have an enormous positive impact on other people. It doesn't take much to be kind. Practice it every day, in every situation, until it's your natural way of being.

You aren't always right: We think we have the answers, know what's right and wrong, good and bad, best for ourselves and other people. But we aren't always right. There's always more than one version. There are many perspectives that are valid. Keep yourself open to that truth.

Touch heals: Physical touch is healing and intimate. It bonds us to other people and relieves stress and anxiety. It has a myriad of health benefits such as lowering heart rate and improving the immune system. Mindful, loving touch with those you love is a gift that should be shared.

Little things matter: It's not the big wins, the great accomplishments, or the status in life that really count. It's the accumulation of little things the quiet moments in nature, special time with our kids, seeing the smile on our spouse's face when we walk in the door. Pay attention to these things.

Fun is underrated How much of your day is fun? Really fun? Life is short. We should enjoy it. Don't make things serious that don't have to be. Create more fun in your life. Don't worry about what other people think of your fun. Just enjoy it.

Posturing builds walls Creating a persona to impress or shield yourself from pain diminishes intimacy and authenticity. People generally see through this, and it pushes them away.

Risk expands you: To make positive change in your life, you often must take risk. You must tolerate some level of uncertainty. Taking thoughtful, calculated risk strengthens your change muscle and helps you grow.

Intuition counts: Your judgement is important, but your intuition super charges your judgement. Intuition is data from your subconscious mind, based on your past experiences and patterns in life. It can arise spontaneously when you are called on to make a decision or need information.

Fear is an illusion (mostly) Most of the things we fear never happen. Or if they do happen, they are rarely as bad as we fear they will be. For most of us, fear is the worst thing that will happen to us. Reality isn't as painful.

Marriages change: The person you married will change over time. You will change over time. Hopefully you will change in the same direction or come to love the changes in the other person. Don't let these changes take you by surprise.